DISQUS

Kim · 1 month ago

She probably just knew that the dress maker sizes things too small for normal women. I hate that. I know my size...it's MY size after all (and it's big enough TYVM) but some brands I can't wear without going up 2 or 3 sizes. I know it's not me...it's them

suburbanturmoil · 1 month ago

I'll just keep repeating that to myself. "It's not me. It's them. It's not me. It's them." Dresses are a lot like men, aren't they?

quiltbabe8 · 1 month ago

"Dresses are a lot like men, aren't they?"

ROFL!

Choking On My Thoughts Blog · 1 month ago

its only funny cause it's true!

quiltbabe8 · 1 month ago

Agh - where did my comment go?

It *is* them. Each designer/maker uses a different set of so-called "standard" sizes. They do it to make us crazy, insecure and brand loyal - because you know when you find garments that fit well but are labeled a size smaller than what you would normally expect to wear, you will forever be loyal to that brand.

I used to sew a lot of my clothes; pattern companies are the same way.

Lar · 1 month ago

Ugh, how rude! You need to report her to her manager or to the corporate office--no way should she have said that, or anything like it. Regardless of her opinion, she should have said, "If you need anything while you're in the dressing room, please let me know; my name is Brunhilda."

I used to mystery shop, and believe me when I tell you that retailers WANT to know about this kind of behavior.

Sarah Lena · 1 month ago

I had to comment because I am a former employee of LOFT, an Ann Taylor division, and .. I dunno .. I felt the need to defend the sales staff.

Part of the job there is to get women the BEST fit, regardless of a number on a tag. I spent 80% of my time in the fitting room trying to convince women that they needed to go to a different size .. whether it be up or down a size, or even try a petite fit. We want you to look GOOD.. no one but you sees the size on your tag, but everyone sees your in your clothes.

Could she have said that better? YES, and she should have. But I just want you to know that AT/LOFT would NEVER want any woman to feel that way. And I'm sorry you did.

suburbanturmoil · 1 month ago

I don't even think she was trying to be rude. There's no nice way to say "You need a bigger size." And there's also nothing a shopper wants to hear LESS than that! Except maybe, "Ma'am, we caught you on tape. You need to come with me."

lisse · 1 month ago

How about "that style runs small?" Which, I have to say, they do. There's very little at Ann Taylor made for women with any kind of curves. Loft may be different, but AT dresses are generally made for flat people.

K. · 1 month ago

I read Sarah Lena's comment, and while I see what she is saying, I still have to disagree. Even if the woman made the 'you need a bigger size' announcement in the sweetest voice possible.. even if she honestly did not mean it offensively.. even if she was just doing her job - that is not how you go about it. Had you come out of the dressing room rocking a dress that was much too small, I understand that it may be her job to try and tell you otherwise. But to make such a statement before you went in? To do it with the wording that she used? Ohhh no.

purejoy · 1 month ago

there was a guy in knoxville who got so angry at the suit salesman he shot and killed him.
if i had had a firearm.........
people like that do not deserve to have a job in "customer service."
while i do not advocate going around shooting smug salespeople, i don't necessarily think a kick in the shins would be out of order.

i know, i know, and i call myself purejoy.

well what that woman did was just purenasty.

may she get black jellybeans in her easter basket for eternity.

Choking On My Thoughts Blog · 1 month ago

people like that probably love & request black jelly beans

Toothwhale · 1 month ago

I'm sorry this happened to you. There was no reason for her to say what she did.

musicjunkie79 · 1 month ago

How rude!!! She could've just said "let me know if you need a different size" despite the fact that, that may have been their largest size left.

I'm not the average shopper though, I like to be left alone until I seek out a CSR when I do need/want help.

Joanna · 1 month ago

Oh no, that's not right. That's why I always take my husband shopping with me. If I need a different size, he will get it for me. Plus, he deals with the nasty salespeople who somehow think I need help shopping. I nearly decked the lady at Motherhood Maternity who kept bringing me the ugliest things. She brought over an orange ruffled shirt with a bow on the back, and my husband said "she won't like that" The lady replied "she won't try it on?" "No," he said laughing at her "she'll throw it at you." Those malls can become dangerous places.

Average Jane · 1 month ago

Yep, that's pretty much why I don't go shopping very often. I feel like I'm a pretty average size, but clothing manufacturers beg to differ. I'll never forget the time I tried on a too-small top that I couldn't get back off without assistance. Fortunately, my sister was with me. I feel a little red-faced just thinking about it now.

facebook-727461872 · 1 month ago

What a bitch!

I tend to get that treatment from the 16-year-olds running around Victoria's Secret.

Mandy · 1 month ago

PLEASE tell me that's made up. Please don't tell me that a woman would ACTUALLY say that to another woman. Please. Please please please.

cattywampus_steph · 1 month ago

OK, was that possibly the WORST sales person ever in the history of retail? Let's insult the buyer, why don't we, before she even tries an article on? Chances are, she knew the designer of the dress grossly sizes their dresses off or whatever. But, STILL...store clerk needs to go back to school or somethin'...

Angella · 1 month ago

I know for a fact that you are nothing but svelte hotness defined.

It was not you; they obviously have faulty sizes. xoxo

bethakaconfusedhomemaker · 1 month ago

I might have jabbed her with a hanger in the eye for saying that. Then again that might be the reason that I don't go dress shopping too often.

Laura Davis · 1 month ago

I feel your pain.

I once asked a salegirl in a snooty store if they had the skirt I was holding (size 4) in my size. She looked me up & down & sniffed, "No!" Haven't been back to that store.

kairab · 1 month ago

i'd probably have bought the dress just because of my stupid pride... then driven half way across the state to return it at a different store. pathetic, huh?

Den · 1 month ago

Same here! I'd have waltzed out of the dressing room, smiling and declaring that it was perfect! Then returned it somewhere else. Not pathetic - pride.

She could have been nicer and just said 'hey, those sizes come up a bit strange - you may want to try a couple either side of your normal size to get the best fit'

DispatchNinja · 1 month ago

What a b**** ! She had no right to talk to you in that way, I would definately speak to a manager. My grandmother had the same expierience in the Naples, Fl Anne Taylor. The sales woman looked at her and said "Oh we don't have anything in YOUR size". WTF is that supposed to mean??? My grandmother is 5'8" and a size 12, which is the size most american women are, by no means morbidly obese. So my grandmother, who was shopping for my wedding, left. I found out and was beside myself. I had just spend a good chunk of change buying my bridesmaids dresses & shoes from their celebrations line, so I called from massachussetts, and bitched out the naples store. Even if she was TRYING to be helpful I think she was completely rude and unprofessional, there was no need for her to say that to you. I would call that store, and also inform them you are going to file a complaint with the corporate office as well as the better buisness bureau. I don't play games :) I've also found that for what ever reason (probably to play mind games and torture women's already faultering body images) that different companies have different sizing. For example, I'll be an 8 in 1 store, a 6 in another, and maybe even a 4, depending on what it is and how its made. Fear not, you are not alone.

Kathy · 1 month ago

Isn't it amazing how one person can zap your confidence with a few words? Obviously this woman has no people skills - and is not working on commission!

looneyjen · 1 month ago

what crack was she smokin'? maybe she just loves tiny commission checks.

jenniferg · 1 month ago

I hate shopping lately. I know what you mean. You never know anymore what the heck size you are... do they make them too big? Too small? What does the size really mean anymore anyway?

Shopping usually makes me want to eat more.

suburbanturmoil · 1 month ago

I don't understand why all designers don't size "generously," if you know what I mean- I totally prefer to shop in stores where I'm a medium (Limited, for example, sizes pretty generously and Target definitely does) than where I'm a large (ahem. BEBE, I'm talking to you).

UUmomma · 1 month ago

shame on her!

Irrevelant · 1 month ago

"Dresses are like men"....smaller than we appear?

LMAO...okay, I can take it ;-)

legallyblonde711 · 1 month ago

whoa! tacky tacky dressing room lady! She could offer assistance if you need a DIFFERENT size... NEVER say BIGGER... what was she thinking! I'm so glad you braved it anyways...

Stupid dress... it's them ... not us...

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KristiStevens · 1 month ago

Man, that always happens to me... with JEANS. Why does my body not fit in jeans anymore? It's not like I'm wanting to look like a rock star. I just want a pair of freaking jeans. Oh, and they don't need to cost an arm or a leg either.

Den · 1 month ago

Yup. Last Christmas I went to a mall specifically to buy jeans. I tried just about every pair in every store, from a size 0 that were too big (great for the ego, if not that believable!) to a 6 that were too small. When I eventually found some that fit, I bought 3 pairs - don't want to do that again for a while.

expatmum · 1 month ago

I think you should write a complaint letter and get the nasty little bee-atch fired!

Tina · 1 month ago

I'da bought the danged dress just to spite the clerk...then took it home and sold it on Ebay. LOL

Niki Kelly Palmer · 1 month ago

The last time I went to Ann Taylor, I cried in the dressing room. And that was the 2nd time I had done just that. The first time I was 3 months post-partum and needed someting nice for my husband's company's Christmas HooHa, and I asked the saleslady for help, she was not very empathetic at all.

suburbanturmoil · 1 month ago

Awwww. If only Ann Taylor knew all the trauma going on in their dressrooms...

lucyricardo · 1 month ago

This is why I buy clothes and take them home to try on. Sure I may end up making extra trips to return things, but it does keep me from wanting to kill myself and any saleslady within 100 feet of my dressing room!

CeCe · 1 month ago

Depending on geographically where the dress was actually cut and sewn... it IS them. For instance... if you pick a dress ( and mind you they can all be from the same store) from an Asian country or SE Asia... there will be very little room for breasts and virtually NO room for hips. A Slavic or Latin country will produce pieces with far more forgiveness in the chest and booty region. There's really very little standardization.

It is so not you... it is how your beauty translates. And no matter how you pronounce it, you are beautiful.

jenny in MN · 1 month ago

Oh hell no! I would have went ahead and bought the darn thing and then taken it back another day just to make her head explode.

She should have said let me know if you need any help or other size(s)...implying smaller or larger and not have implied you wouldn't fit into the one you have because it would be too small. RUDE!

southerncuppacrazy · 1 month ago

Oh I have so been there. Ann Taylor likes to make garments in sizes for those who throw up their lunch regularly instead of eating a freaking delicious Chick Fil A like normal people.

suburbanhousewife · 1 month ago

"No, I don't need you to bring me a different size, but I DO need you to bring me your MANAGER."
I bet you were at Atlantic Station...I don't go in that store w/o an escort who has a bail bondsman on speed dial. I like the clothes, but I'm gonna get arrested over one of those sales chicklets one day. Thankfully, it never seems to be the same ones, so they much lose their jobs on a regular basis.

gitzengirl · 1 month ago

You should re-title this "Death of a Saleswoman" because I'm pretty sure I would have killed her if she said that to me...

Just sayin...

suburbanturmoil · 1 month ago

LOL

Amber · 1 month ago

What a snooty brat that sales girl was. She should be fired for treating customers that way. No telling how many people she has scared off that will never shop there again. I wouldn't.

Katie · 1 month ago

I get that dress sizes really change depending on the designer, but she shouldn't have said that, that was really rude!

Star Foster · 1 month ago

I love Ann Taylor clothes but not Ann Taylor sales people, for just this reason. They have such attitude. And I shop AT in an outlet mall ! Everyone knows the AT sizes are cut small. Or so I tell myself.

Adam Heath Avitable · 1 month ago

I'm confused by the thought that you could possibly be wearing the largest size a store has. I've seen you in person. Is this a store for midgets? Anorexic midgets? It must be, because that's the only way this makes sense.

Jill · 1 month ago

A friend and I were walking through the petite section at Dillards in Green Hills once when some old saleslady yelled across the department that the misses section was "over there." We weren't even trying to look at clothes! We must have set off some invisible weight sensor.

Keyona · 1 month ago

You poor thing. I would have bought the dress just to show her. And then returned it on a later date. I'm just a bitch who doesn't like to be proven wrong. LOL!

Magdeline · 1 month ago

First of all I'm in shock that a salesperson would say that--I would call the store and complain to the manager. Isn't that "What-Not-To-Say-To-A-Customer-When-Working-In-Retail 101"? You wait until the customer has the article of clothing on to suggest a bigger size!

Also, weird, because when I used to buy Ann Taylor clothes (when Mom was buying), the sizes always seemed to run big, which I certainly wasn't complaining about! But maybe they've changed their sizing since then...

Margie · 1 month ago

I sooo would have confidently strode out of the dressing room, proclaimed, "it is a tad loose, but I'll take it", bought it and then returned to a different location- just to spite the snooty sales girl.

The other commenters are right though about different brands having different sizing standards- I always used to buy Liz Claiborne because I wore a smaller size in her clothes! But still... sales girl needs to check herself!

Toni · 1 month ago

This is why I shop Nordstroms sales on line. I have bought Prada Xtra Large only to find out my very small friend can wear it but not me. I am normally a medium, not normally but finding myself on more than a few instances a large. Drat I have never encountered a small that fit.

Tiffany · 1 month ago

That lady was rude to you! But I'm with you about hating to go shopping. I do most of my clothes shopping online, but at stores where I can just take them back to the store to do a quick return (Kohl's, JcPenney, Old Navy, Target, etc.). I just don't have the time or the patience to wade through racks of clothes in the stores anymore!

Deb · 1 month ago

I wear anything from a 2 to an 8 at Ann Taylor. Go figure! It just depends on the cut of the piece. Sizing is very inconsistent at Ann!

Do yourself a favor and go online at their website and order the size you need. You can always return it to the store! ;-)

OldMDGirl · 1 month ago

See, what you SHOULD have said is, "I take it you're not on commission?"

That woman is evil and will go to hell, don't worry.

mia · 1 month ago

That woman was taking her $7.00/hour (or whatever minimum wage is now) a little too seriously. What a horrible and unhappy person she must be.

Elisa · 1 month ago

what.a.bitch.

I wish you had told her "you think? oh, thank you ever so much, but I'll try it anyway. and if it is in fact too small, I'm sure it's just the right size for you to shove up your a**"

I know, I wouldn't have had the guts to. But I wish you had ;-)

Simone · 1 month ago

Um. People? Long time reader, first time commenter here. What's wrong about looking good? What is so inherently bad about going up a size?

I have a chronic illness that's left me, since my teens, looking anorexic, and I do not mean that in a good way. If someone told me I'd need a larger size, I'd be thrilled; ordinarily I get comments about "needing a sandwich." The salesperson obviously didn't mean it to be insulting. Why heap on the scorn?

Lindsey. You are a stunning woman, no matter the label. Commenters... this is heartbreaking. Are you really that size-phobic? Fat-hating? What's wrong with being sexy? Or having a body, for that matter?